|He's a sound sleeper|
6:55 pm pick up toys
7:00 pm brush teeth with tantrums surrounding the actual brushing of the teeth (he loves having his teeth brushed, just didn't want to go to bed)
7:15 pm put on pj's
7:18 pm pick out 2 books to read
7:20 pm sit on couch and read 2 books
7:30 pm tantrum starts because he doesn't want to go to bed (this was the bedtime he'd previously had without any problems)
7:36 pm walk away from tantrumming child toward his room
7:38 pm deal with tantrumming child on the floor in his room
7:45 pm potty
7:50 pm turn off lights, turn music on, cuddle
7:55 pm he's in bed.
Sounds like fun doesn't it. Yeah. So one night a few weeks ago I actually timed the amount of time he wasted throwing tantrums - he threw a lot of tantrums that night - and I told him "Bubby. You just spent 25 minutes throwing tantrums. Tomorrow night we're starting the bedtime routine 25 minutes early." So the next night I did! I set the timer for 6:30 pm and gave him 5 "extra minutes" to play and our evening went like this:
6:35 pm clean up
6:38 pm PJ's
6:40 pm brush teeth
6:43 pm pick out 2 books
6:45 pm read (we started on the couch and then one day at nap I realized he did much better when we read in his bedroom - so we switched to him picking out books before PJ's and bringing them down to his room where we read).
6:55/7:05 pm potty
7:07 pm lights out, music on, cuddle
7:10 pm he's in bed.
Times are not exact - but I'm now out of his room by 7:10 pm at the latest. There are no tantrums (or very few and in the past two weeks they've been rare) at all at bedtime because I discovered I am getting him in bed before he's ready to crash - whereas before I was starting the whole process when he was crashing. AND the added benefit - he's now sleeping in till around 6:45/7 am! The past couple days (without heat) he's woken up earlier than that - but still, when he does get up he's in a good mood! And then he takes a really good nap (2-2 1/2 hrs, sometimes 3!) - because I realized the same thing with his nap - he needed to go down almost an hour earlier than when he was going. He might fight it a little bit - but he is usually passed out within 5 minutes of being in bed. My poor little exhausted "growing" 3 yr old, who knew he needed to go to bed earlier?!
He has recently decided he hates bath time. Like tantrums would ensue when I'd say "It's time for a bath!" He was perfectly fine and he'd even agree when I'd tell him 24 hrs in advance that he was going to be getting a bath, but 5 min befornot okay at all! It was horrible! Then I finally got him to tell me why. It was so simple! He didn't like getting out of the tub and being cold!! Seriously - that was it! So this last time I turned the heat up in the bathroom about an hr before and shut the door - so it got toasty warm. He had fun in the bath...