|Apples dipped in Babaganoush = delicious!|
So here is a glass raised to those moments...the good,
Setting: Bathtime. 3yo, pouring water in the tub.
Me: "Bubby, why aren't you drinking the water anymore?" (He loves drinking bath water...don't ask)
3yo: "Mommy I can't drink this! I'm cleaning the bathtub! This is Coca Cola! This is what you clean bathtubs and toilets with, you don't drink it!"
That's right folks, there are times that he does listen to me - and apparently when I said "Coca Cola isn't good to drink...." and listed all the things you could clean with it - he was listening!
|Pretending to sleep and snore|
|A different outfit from a different day...this is the "around the house" look|
"I need to eat some seaweed first because I'm hungry!"
|"Mommy! Look at all this food! Can you take a picture of it?"|
Me: "Hey Bubby, what do you want for lunch?"
Me:(calmly says) "Okay, if you're not going to tell me I'm just going to make something up." (Started pulling things out of the fridge.)
3 yo: (cue tantrum) "NO MOMMY!!! NO, DON'T MAKE SOMETHING UP!!!" (repeat for 5 min)
Me: (calmly says) "Then tell me what you want, I'm listening..."
3 yo: (ignores me but tantrum continues) "NO MOMMY!! NO! DON'T MAKE SOMETHING UP!!!"
|This was the "silly" picture!|
|Relaxing outside - but this is also what a tantrum looks like when I don't get his face in the pic|
|Eating just made banana pudding...|
Me: "Bubby, you're going to bed soon because I can't handle you anymore."
3 yo: "That's okay mommy! I can handle you!"
"Mommy!! I peed standing up! Just like daddy does!"
Where you then walk into the bathroom trying to remain calm as you see the disaster before you of pee on the toilet seat (his little toilet seat he attempted to pee through while standing on the little ladder attachment), pee on the walls and floor - because he obviously missed since this was his first time to do it solo. His face is so excited and proud and you really hate to burst his bubble about how he actually peed more out of the toilet than in - so you just let it go with a "Good job buddy!" and the next time he needed to go I gently reminded him to sit down on the toilet.
Or those times when the day is going down the drain but then your kid says something funny and you suddenly think "maybe this is the turning point"
"Mommy I didn't throw a tantrum! Mommy! I didn't throw a tantrum so I get 'no tantrum juice'!"
That was of course said by the kid sitting in timeout, after he spent the morning throwing tantrum after tantrum after tantrum. Apparently to my threenager, 3 mins without a tantrum means he should be rewarded with 'no tantrum juice'...unfortunately for him we are not on the same page.
There are also those moments when you have a "breakthrough" with your kid...you know where you can really have a heart-to-heart conversation and both of you are heard...this happened yesterday. All day I'd been ignored, or not necessarily ignored since he had to hear what I was saying in order to do the complete opposite...but miscommunication was occurring no matter what tactics I tried. Then finally I gave up trying to communicate and instead I just rambled stuff off (I find myself doing this often since becoming a parent)...things like
Me: "I wonder when you'll actually stop fighting me and just listen to what I say and we can actually talk instead of me talking and you arguing...maybe you can even let me in on things I can do so that we can have fun, because this fighting and arguing is just getting old and I want to have fun! I don't like arguing...and now I'm just talking to myself because I know you're not listening to me - but maybe, just maybe something will get through and you might actually hear something I say...wishful thinking, but at this point that's all I have. When are you going to listen to me?" (I stopped to take a breath and really I had no more to say...)
3 yo: "I will listen to you when I'm an adult and I can touch the ceiling. See mommy, I'm just a little kid." (standing in front of me he then moves up onto his tiptoes) "See Mommy, I'm growing but I'm not big enough now. I can't touch the ceiling."
And yes - that's right that was the "breakthrough"...for the rest of his childhood he probably won't listen to me and then someday when he's an adult (although the touching the ceiling thing might be pushing it a bit) he'll probably listen to something I've said. But hey - I have a kid who is honest, and apparently self-aware, and an eavesdropper! That's right folks, from here on out I'm going to be the "crazy lady who talks to herself" because apparently that is one way to get through to my kid! Who needs direct communication anyway - it's so overrated! I actually tried the "talking to myself" thing again today and he was responding to my statements much more so than when I ask him questions and talk to him normally - it's actually hilarious! Annoying, but hilarious.
Bonus video: Because I know that the bad/mixed outweighed the good - so here ya go, we do have fun! There is a video on YouTube that has a bunch of kids songs (54 min worth of songs and videos with the songs) - this kid is OBSESSED with it...one of the songs in the "Wheels on the Bus" and one of the verses says "the people on the bus go chatter chatter chatter..." but it's in a British accent - which means when this kid sings that verse it must be sung with a British accent!